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@ young lesbians

It’s okay if you thought you were straight. It’s okay if you didn’t have little clues in your childhood that you weren’t. It’s okay if you grew up wanting a fairy tale wedding to a man. It’s okay if the first time you saw a same gender couple, you didn’t have an epiphany about what you wanted. It’s okay if you didn’t have a crush on your favourite Disney princess. It’s okay if you assigned yourself male crushes. It’s okay if you thought only boys could be gay. It’s okay if you dated or had sex with boys before you figured this whole identity thing out. 

The way we raise children, especially girls, often tells you what you want and don’t want enough times that it can take actively trying to break the conditioning to figure out what you actually do and don’t want. It’s okay if it took a long time. It’s okay if it’s still ongoing. It’s okay if you doubt yourself. 

If you come out the other side of figuring out what you yourself really want, and that involves relationships exclusively with other women, congrats, you’re a lesbian, and your identity is perfectly valid, and we’re here to welcome and support you.